Self Sacrifice vs Self Love by Roshandra

LETTING GO:  Self - Sac - ri - fice   noun

The giving up of one's own interests or wishes in order to help others or advance a cause.

Synonyms: self-denial 

self-discipline, abstinence, asceticism, abnegation, self-deprivation, moderation, austerity, temperance, abstention. un-selfishness   

The ABILITY to LOVE yourself as a WOMAN is often confused with the loss of oneself to the marriage, to the children and your community.   We need to keep our relationship vital, alive and loving to ourselves to.  WHY?  So we may be able to GIVE more to those we love and tend to and for our own balance.  When we lose that, we lose the sense of ourselves.  We flourish if loved, given to so it keeps us alive, feeling cared for and noted.   It is a cycle of love that maintains us and we absolutely need this from our partner and other women.  Our children when they are small love on us all the time usually, but as they grow and grow up and leave the nest we cannot expect that from them.   So SELF NOURISHMENT is a key learning tool we all must do for ourselves at times.  

The ABILITY to LOVE Yourself as a WOMAN is often confused with a loss of the Sense of SELF  Self Sacrifice and giving to your family, children, and life partner is often part of losing ourselves to others and the role we are serving.  SELF-LESSNESS is also a virtue by those wishing to be of Service to others, to the World and letting go of the ego 'id'.  Healthy women, must come to terms with this.  Often in divorce is when we face trying to FIND OURSELVES again and reclaiming who we are or were.  Also, when our children leave the home we face finding our sense of who we are when the nest is empty.

If we learn to nurture ourselves more, we begin to establish this difference of Self Sacrifice and create the Healthy ego with the Self NOURISHED Woman, we become better balanced.  We need time by ourselves to cultivate this and quiet.

Tools will be taught on this process to help women be healthier.